Saturday, December 10, 2005

“WHY DOES A VALUED PERSON ADVOCATE FOR A PERSON WHO IS LESS VALUED?”

The following is a draft for a address I gave to my fellow "graduates" and their families from the Georgia "Parent Leadership Support Program" [which is under the Georgia Advocacy Office].



{Introduction}

Let’s get this off the table first: The question is not a good one. Obviously there aren’t people who (should be) valued more or less than another. Some of our nation’s founders even declared as much when they said that “all…are created equal.” I don’t think there is anyone here who would disagree with that. – Society as a whole may feel and react differently, but they’re not here to benefit from our enlightened wisdom, so we’ll move on.

Knowing that “all people are created equal,” as some of our founders put it does not answer a deeper, more personal question for all of us in this room: “Why should we advocate, period?”

I can’t give you a straight answer to that. Each one of us has different reasons that we advocate for others in our lives. Some do it because we have been beneficiaries of advocacy ourselves. Some because it is simply expected or demanded of us. Some of us advocate because we have a genuine care and concern for others. And some of us simply know that it is the right thing to do. Usually our individual reasons will be some combination of these or other factors.

My own reasons come from a combination of these and, more importantly, from my faith. I know I have an Advocate. I know I have been blessed to be a blessing. I know there are others who need my help just like I have needed the help of others. Proverbs 31:8 (gnt) is one of the many passages that guide me, “Speak up for people who cannot speak for themselves. Protect the rights of all who are helpless.” You may have similar reasons you advocate.

But the reason most of us are here is not because we don’t believe in the intrinsic value of all people, nor is it because we don’t believe in the idea and importance of advocacy in general. Instead many here have gone through a class – supported by many of the loved ones also here – because we desire to advocate for a special population in a specific field. Why?

Is it because this population is more vulnerable to neglect and abuse and we can’t see that happen? Probably. Is it because we are angry with the way some people or systems have treated us or those we care about and we want to get back at them? Maybe. Is it because we want others to see what we do in the children we advocate for – as valued individuals – and to treat them with the same respect and concern that they do for others? Absolutely!

I believe advocacy has much less to do with getting helps and services to a child and much more to do with changing the attitudes and hearts of those the child comes into contact with. All the laws, rules, and regulations that the government writes can’t change hearts; they can only change circumstances. They can force compliance and services that can help a child for awhile, but if people can see beyond those measures to the intrinsic value that each person has, the war itself will be won – for the child and for all those who come into contact with the people and systems whose heart has been changed. People will be compelled by their being to do what is right instead of being forced into it.

Certainly there are times when hearts won’t change and children are suffering because of it. For those times we fight for the battle and use the tools we have been trained with. But I believe the ground we cover within the school as well as society itself will best be covered when people can see in all others another person who is valued. All supports and services flow best when they come from respect and understanding that all people are people. Our advocacy is of value because the children are. Because all are.


Thank you.

Wednesday, September 28, 2005

The Staff @ EPCOT

Here's me and some of the Trinity staff at Epcot. -- We are in Orlando for a District convocation but left a day early so we could go to the parks. (If we left the day things started, we would have had to leave at around 4am that day! -- Besides, Tom had never been to an amusement/theme park!

Here's three pictures from yesterday.

All of un at Epcot
All of us at Epcot

Tom & Brenda B. with their hats
Tom & Brenda B. with their hats. Tom has been wanting that Mickey hat for 50 years!

Brenda M., Becky, and me with some other hats
Brenda M., Becky, and me with some other hats

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Dancing to the 80's

We had some 80's music on when the boys go tout of the bath the other night. They were dancin' fools (including Jen)!


Goofs!

Here are the goofs!

Ben's in a laundry basket. -- We don't know why he's there, but it's cute!


Jen & Ben, Watching TV on the Floor

Just hanin' out, watching Elmo (or some other grand program).


Ben's First Day of School

As you may recall, Ben started school at the public school this month.

Here are two pictures of Ben and Daniel before that day.



Aren't they cute?!

Friday, September 2, 2005

Ben & School

This is a choice no Christian parent should have to make; whether to send your child to a Christian School where they will learn the most important news about God's love through Jesus Christ, or a school where his/her special needs can be met.

Last year Ben attended Trinity's two year old preschool program for two mornings a week. Since he is still mostly at that development level but much bigger (and strongger) than the other kids, that option would not work for him this year. Neither will the three year old classroom as he would still need more attention than can be reasonably be asked of the two teachers there. It wouldn't be fair to the other children and it wouldn't be fair to the teachers.

So, Jen and I sought out the (very good) special education program in our county's schools. Two weeks ago Ben was evaluated by a lot of good, qualified staff at a local elementary school. Today we went in for the (unsuprising) results: Ben is eligible to receive services through the school. We went over the goals for Ben and set up an IEP for him.

Starting next Thursday, Ben will attend this school from 7:30 a.m. - 10:00 a.m. in a class with four other students. He will have fun and learn and also receive help in areas he needs it.

Jennifer and I are pleased with the staff, the school, and the plan and, even though we know he will still get the Christian education he deserves simply because we will teach him those things no-matter-what, it breaks our hearts that our Lutheran school system does not do a better job at seeing this as a wonderful ministry opportunity and outreach (except for some, not in our area.)

Don't get me wrong; we understand the challenges and pragmatic issues associated with getting special education within our Lutheran schools - some of which seem overwhelming. But we are unconvinced that many of the issues couldn't be worked through if given the time and effort.

Anyway, Ben will do well and be fine and, like I said, we are pleased with the plan. We just hope that someday we can work toward a time when all of God's children have an opportunity to receive a quality Christian education. - Be sure that Jennifer and I will be working toward that goal.

God bless.

Info for Congregation re:Hurricane Katrina

Thursday I sent out a congregation wide email with the same information to accompany the September newsletter coming out soon about responses to the devestation of Hurricane Katrina.

You can read it here.

God bless them all.

Monday, May 23, 2005

Still 'Recovering'

Well, last week was nuts. I was out of town Sunday through Tuesday, was in the office for one crazy day, then had a procedure done Thursday. (I got 'fixed.')

I'd say everything went as planned but that would be an overstatement. I won't get into details but I am still 'recovering.'

In addition, Ben has been sick (mostly over it, though on some meds.) and tonight Daniel was feeling a little warm.

As long as we can all be 100% by this weekend, we'll be happy. (I'll post why in a couple of weeks. - In fact, the next post might not be until the week of June 6.)

Thanks for all your prayers. Please keep them up.

Peace!

Daniel's Graduation

Last Wednesday Daniel 'graduated' from Kindergarten at his school. Here are a few pictures of the event.


Daniel and two classmates, in full garb.



The three Kindergarten classes. Daniel's on the top row, second from the left.


They do a pledge to the American flag, the Christian flag, and to the Bible.
Daniel's bearing the Stars and Bars.



Oh, the stress of graduating!


Daniel receiving his 'diploma.'


Relaxing after 'graduation.'


Daniel and his teacher, Mrs. Wehunt.

Monday, March 28, 2005

Ernie & Bert

What a pair!

Aunt Val & Uncle Garry sent these "matching" shirts that fit the two personalities pictured here pretty well! One is carefree and one uptight.

Maybe it's a stage. Then again...
Ernie (Ben) & Bert (Daniel)